Things I wish I knew when I was 22

I love getting random emails and comments from readers.  In my last post, I even offered my style advice to a reader. The people who stumble across my blog often make my day :)

Not too long ago I got an email from someone who read my Crazy Rich Asians blog post and I eventually asked him for some advice. (Yea kind of random, but you never know where a conversation will lead…)

I asked him, what are some things you knew when you were 22?

Since he is a bit “old(er)” he was able to give me this answer. (and i quote…)

“If you asked me then, I probably thought I knew everything.
This may sound cliché; but in hindsight I’d have to saystay true to yourself.  Don’t let the noise around you cause you to lose focus.  Everything will eventually fall into place.  In the end nothing else matters, you are responsible for your own happiness.  It’s all about what you want, no one owes you anything.
here are a few more words of wisdom….
You don’t know everything
You CAN say no
Do it because you want to
Travel – do lots of it
Not everyone is going to like you or be a friend
EQ is more important than IQ
In ten years time and if you still chat with me, let me know if the above held true for you :)  good times ahead….”

This didn’t come from one of the many articles you see floating on the internet about self-improvement (which I read). This didn’t come from a tv show. This came to me in an email from someone who has lived and learned firsthand.

Reading it only reconfirmed what I already knew and have read about. It was such a good feeling.
Sometimes we doubt ourselves when really we should trust ourselves more. I’m still learning to do that.

This is why I love random emails. It gives me the perspective I need, to know that what I’m doing is “right.”

If you have something to say that you think will make my day, please feel free to share! I love hearing from you.
Thank you for reading. :)

Keep living and learning,

-AndreaM

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“I am a woman in process. I’m just trying like everybody else. I try to take every conflict, every experience, and learn from it. Life is never dull.”- Oprah Winfrey
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