It’s not the journey or the destination…

With any life change, transition or awe inspiring moment, cliche sounding quotes and sayings are sure to follow.

Some fitting examples of inspiration guiding my relocation to LA from NYC:

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There are a million sayings that can apply to this LA adventure of mine… One quote in particular that has really struck me is:

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Not because it’s the most relevant, but because I actually kind of disagree with it.

After spending some time here in California (technically almost two months, officially almost a month), I believe the following to be true:

It’s not the journey or the ride. it’s who you’re in the car with.


(I’m using the term “car” quite literally because here you drive around a lot and will spend a lot of time in a car.)

In business or life, where you go and how you get there will/can always change. In fact, the truth is no matter how much you achieve, accomplish or acquire in this lifetime… there is always something more to be had. You’ll never “reach” your final destination, but you will keep moving and living so the key is to enjoy the journey and process with the right people.

You might have plans to increase ____ by _____ in your business but if you don’t have the right team to execute it, you won’t make that goal. You might have an event planned and sorted, but if you don’t have the dedicated group of people to help carry it out, or attend, the event won’t be fun or profitable. Spending 9 hours or more at work can either be enlightening or poisonous. Your apartment might not be the most comfortable but your roommates can make it feel like home (or hell). You might have to drive an hour or 6 hours to a place you want to explore and with the right company the time can fly by. but with bad or horrible company the time will pass by painfully. Enjoying a meal with someone who you care about is far better than eating with someone who you really don’t care for. You might be in a completely new environment- a new job or geographic location- but with the right people around you, you will want to learn and do more.

The type of people you surround yourself with on a daily basis is of crucial importance. It shapes who you are and how you see/experience the world whether or not you realize it. I could insert something about the nature vs nurture debate, or how you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Instead I’ll say: Surround yourself with only the strongest, finest and most positive people you know.

“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.” – Karl Marx

Not happy with who is around you? Or where you are right now? Whether it’s a personal relationship or work team I think it’s important to evaluate where you want to take your business, career or life. What sort of people do you want to meet or have around you to get to where you want to be?  By creating this list you will find yourself making a more conscious effort to spend time with these people.

Take some time today to think about who you want in your life and how you can surround yourself with them. Shape your network in a way that will not only propel you forward, but everyone else who surrounds you.

Get in the car with the right people and drop off the people who make you carsick. It matters.


*Special shoutout to the people who have made my transition here easier than it could be. You know who you are. The job hunt, sleeping on couches, long drives, long hikes have been only minor bumps in this adventure you’re sharing with me. <3


I have bi-weekly morning meetings where we talk about business and life

“Sometimes the most ordinary things could be made extraordinary simply by doing them with the right people”- Elizabeth Green

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