It’s something that’s been on my mind for quite sometime (I know because this post has been sitting in my “drafts” for more than a month).
Everyone has an ego. I’ve seen how it operates in me and other people in both business and life. It doesn’t just come in the form of arrogance or stuck-upness. It’s not just about vanity or showing off. Ego is much more than an overinflated sense of self. It also comes in unwillingness and denial, intermingled with feelings of inferiority or self-hatred.
Ego is almost always the reason why I make the decisions that are not true to how I feel. It often denies me of happiness, ends things before they even begin.
My ego will take the shortcut because it’s easy and because I can. It will seek instant gratification and empty validation not long-term value.
My ego won’t agree with you even though I know you’re right.
My ego will convince myself of everything and anything just as long as I don’t have to admit I’m wrong.
Even when I’m wrong, I won’t apologize.
My ego will be the one who doesn’t say hi to you even though you’re standing within ten feet of me. Even though I want to. Even though I should.
My ego won’t ask the questions because they might sound dumb.
My ego will have its walls up.
It’ll say you’re not my type.
Will judge you before you even speak.
Won’t give you a chance.
My ego will assume. It won’t think about looking further or asking for your input.
My ego won’t acknowledge, won’t accept.
My ego lets me miss out.
My ego won’t send you a note even though I’ve been thinking about you.
My ego won’t ask you to hang out because it’s been awhile since we spoke.
I thought of you today when I saw/heard that but I won’t tell you.
I won’t respond immediately or at all because I’m too “busy.”
My ego won’t let me say the things on my mind. Better to not say it at all than to say it and regret it, right?
It won’t want to care or listen.
I won’t do it because it’ll “make me look bad”
It”ll make excuses. It’ll complain.
My ego won’t say things on my mind.
It won’t say “I’m sorry.”
“I miss you.”
“I love you.”
It sure as hell won’t say (those) things first.
My ego will walk away. Push you away. Won’t wanna talk about it. Won’t keep in touch.
My ego won’t let me go out my comfort zone. My ego would prefer to stay safe and what’s comfortable. What’s easy.
It won’t actually do what I truly want to do.
My ego likes to speak without thinking.
Likes to criticize before waiting.
My ego will expect.
It will lie and overcompensate.
My ego likes to get but not give. Won’t give compliments or give time or give care.
Likes to say “You’re welcome” more than “Thank You.”
My ego cares too much about what people think. It holds me back.
My ego spends too much time buying things I don’t need or want just to impress others who probably could care less.
My ego is boring. It’s negative.
It’s all talk and no action. It rarely starts but is good at ending.
My ego is a coward. My ego is scared.
My ego is blind to opportunity in both business and life.
My ego is usually wrong.
Give it up. Let it go.
The best things- the people and things that are worth it- happen just on the other side of fear, your comfort zone and ego.
Handle your ego. Don’t let it handle you.
Be aware, free yourself and it no longer dictates your reality.
Don’t get me wrong. Standards are higher than ever. Standards are there. This doesn’t mean you should be a pushover or give up your dignity. It means having the ability to discern/know better and respond in a way that is more authentic and gutsy yet less ego-centric (among other factors).
It’s difficult to keep your ego in check especially when you feel vulnerable or when you’re in a foreign place. Sometimes you can’t help when your guard goes up and consequently your ego inflates. But keeping your ego in check helps you make the choices and judgments that are most authentic and natural to you. The choices you reaaally want to make. How many times have you thought of the would’ve, could’ve, should’ves? How many times was it because of ego?
Remember, too much ego can kill your talent.
So curb your ego. Starve the ego if you can. Feed the soul- it’s much more fulfilling.
Note: I almost didn’t want to post this because of my ego. (See! It’s everywhere. P.s. How ironic)
And as always, a quote to leave you something to think about:
An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life…
“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.”
“One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego.
“The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.
“This same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather,
“Which wolf will win?”
The old chief simply replied,
“The one you feed.”