My first ever post on Quora

I’ve definitely mentioned this before, but I’ve been on Quora, admiring from afar for quite some time now. The content I read on the app/site resonates with me and it never fails to give me that dose of humanity. I’ve never felt so connected to an app. I’ve sung its praises in a previous post here.

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So after being a reader, I finally mustered up the courage to write my first answer. Turns out, it’s actually quite easy when you come across the right question. The kind of question that just pushes your buttons and lights a spark in you. The question I wrote an answer to is seemingly quite simple:

I am 5 ft 4 and 110 lbs. My boyfriend calls me fat. What should I do?

It’s something I never thought I’d write about publicly, but I’m glad to share. I couldn’t help but get into detail. I only take the time to write about the things that matter to me (as evidenced on this blog) so I kind of bared my soul on this one.

Here’s an excerpt of what I wrote:

“Not sure if the boat has sailed and it’s “too late” to answer this question but I only just came across it recently and it resonated with me so much. I hope you don’t mind me answering (and I hope this very long answer is somewhat helpful).

I’m 5’3 and 130-135 pounds (at least that’s what the scale said the last time I weighed myself (it’s been awhile)). I say a range because my weight sways depending on stress and what I consume (AKA set point).

I grew up very body conscious. From having my mom and grandma point out every blemish and sign of pudge/weight gain, to being overly aware of the fact that I have “bigger bones than the usual Asian girl,” to dating guys who would comment on what/how much I am eating, to reading in magazines what weight is “normal” to the most dramatic: having a guy whip out his tweezer-like tool (called a caliper) to measure the thickness of my skin fold (my stomach fat) and compare the results with standardized numbers. Not to mention we live in a society where weight and body image are a common topic of discussion.

I didn’t really ask for any of the above to happen, but it did and it hurt me.

So what should you do when someone, especially someone close to you says anything remotely resembling the words, “you’re fat?”

Read the rest of the answer here.

Follow me, ask me to answer a question, upvote my answer, whatever you like if you’re on Quora (which I suggest you should join) 🙂

As always thanks for reading. The goal of my writing is to make you think/feel something. I hope I am somewhat successful.

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