What makes a (sexy) Man


What does it mean to be a Man in today’s society, where common courtesy is not so common and etiquette gets lost behind the screen? As a twenty-something millennial navigating the ever changing world of relationships, this question has popped into my mind more than once. What exactly makes a man (or person in general) sexy? Is it looks? Is it how much money he spends?

Not quite.

Here are some thoughts from two very sexy men that I wholeheartedly agree with:

“You want to know what’s sexy?

Intelligence is sexy.

Ambition is sexy.

Confidence is sexy.

Passion for life is sexy.

The rest is just packaging.”

-James m Sama.


“The sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart. And being thoughtful. And being generous. Everything else is crap! I promise you! It’s just crap that people try to tell to you to make you feel like less. So don’t buy it. Be smart, be thoughtful, and be generous”- Ashton Kutcher

and the important thing to note? All of the aforementioned qualities apply to women equally. After all, you can’t attract what you aren’t.

You can go to James’ site (which I’ve been following for years) for insight on the modern gentlemen or “the New Chivalry Movement.” It’s a site I feel every guy should read and consult (moreso than GQ or Men’s Health) as it shares a lot of valuable thoughts on what truly matters (or at least what I think does) in a healthy and mature relationship.

-To being sexy in business and life

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